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The courage to appear vulnerable

Today the act of courage. The courage to stand up and say it out loud, all whispering about, or to say no, even if the others go with.
Many believe that the brave people do not know fear. But as one of them, which are regularly recognized for my courage to stand up, I deny it. Feelings range from awkward of nervous dread. It requires often influent and groping. Courage is not the absence of fear. It is fear that keeps our Lord in the hand.Vulnerable

It is just as with winter bathing; winter bathers can easily mark the cutting discomfort with the cold, but they do it anyway.

We need our courage when ...

When we discover that we are again starting to talk to anyone. Instead of with the. If-chatter may be necessary to clear thinking and understand one's own reaction. repeated if-talk may indicate a rotten corporate culture of backbiting and gossip.

Or when we do not like what we see or are part of. As a young man, I worked on a salad factory where I was asked to replace the labels with the old date stamp on fine herring salad-cups with fresh date marks. It just was not working; at that time I had not the courage to speak out loud.

Or when we tell ourselves that we have been overlooked, stepped on, snigløbet manipulated and all the other interpretations of other people's behavior, which involves of has done nothing wrong. Maybe they are and maybe they do not know how their actions affect others. Dialogue is what can prevent energy-devouring strife and resignation, and pave the way for a good working.

Convenience or self-esteem?

First and foremost, we must recognize that it is not comfortable. You might feel exposed, naked or silly when you begin to say it, that's hard. Or you are afraid to colleagues and the boss take offense and judging you - with incalculable consequences.
To feel his fear is part of the show against. But do not let it stop there. To tie also has far-reaching consequences - for your self esteem and your well-being at work.

One trick is then to keep you in their own half and resist the temptation to tell the others what you think about the.
Try to stick to the observation - what happened, quite soberly told?
And then tells you what it did to you - were you uncomfortable, insecure, perhaps confused?
Followed by what you long for - perhaps security, fairness or respect.
When you are sure that your message has gone through, comes the most important thing of all: You request what you like want they do. It is not just talk and hernia. You take responsibility and ask for what matters to you.

Vulnerable - but not weak

In the example of herring salad could read as follows:
"When you ask me to replace the old labels with fresh, so I become irritated. It is important to me that customers get honest information about what they buy. Would you like to we discard the old hits herring salad?

Perhaps the answer is 'no'. More likely it is the opening of a conversation where I get the opportunity to stand on target for what matters to me.

Whether the case is herring salad, a colleague who smells a boss who get too close, or an entire culture with blame game or inefficiency or any gift of self-sufficient - the first step in change is to find the courage to address it.
We often think though that when we feel vulnerable and exposed, we appear weak. But actually experienced it as strength of those who witness it. Perhaps it is worth remembering when you got off.

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